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Dress Standards Vary Among the Generations

Question: I recently moved to Southern California from a large city and am appalled the way people my age and even younger dress. I am retired and still feel it is important to dress well. It makes a statement to others. Furthermore, I find the manners, particularly of younger people, disturbing. I have a grandson […]

Lives Are More Than the Things We Collect

Question: My husband of 43 years died about two years ago. I am just going through his papers in several file cabinets in my crowded garage. He never threw away a piece of paper. I am in the process of saving and tossing – doing most of the latter. It struck me: Is this what […]

Live-In Family Members Can Put Strain on Elderly

Question: I am 73 years old and live in a small apartment with two grown daughters and an 18-year old grandson.  The daughter in her 50s is working for minimum wage and contributes financially.  The daughter in her 40s recently moved in with me since she lost her job.  Our monthly income is about $3,600.  […]

Determine Needs Before Searching for a Caregiver

Question: My father-in-law is 98 years old, in good health but with poor eyesight.  After many years of taking care of my mother-in-law and now my father-in-law, I am tired.  To keep him at home, I need some help.  Where do I begin?  Many thanks.

Couples Should Discuss Retirement Concerns

Question: My wife, a former teacher, has been retired for five years and still hasn’t found her “post-career self.”  I am an engineer about to retire with a concern:  My wife has announced that I better be spending time in my woodshop and that she has her own routine.  We’ve had a good marriage, but […]

Personal Connections are Good for Your Health

Question: I am a 74-year old divorced woman who is somewhat introverted.  I enjoy being alone.  My children tell me that for my health, I need to be more involved with other people.  What’s the true story here?  

Medical Exam Can Eliminate Doubts

Question: My children want me to move into a retirement facility which I am resisting.  I’d rather not be with all of those old people.  Just the thought of it depresses me.   At 75, my children believe I am old, and quite honestly I resent it.  They suggest that my current car is the last […]

Tips for Helping With Long-Distance Caregiving

Question: I am 81 years old and a full-time caregiver to my wife of the same age.  My sister is 90 and lives in her own home about 100 miles from me. Currently my brother, age 86, provides most of her care – cooking, doctor appointments, shopping, gardening and home maintenance.  He suffers from severe […]

How grandparents can avoid gift-giving pitfalls

Question: I am a 64-year-old grandmother who adores her grandchildren ages 3 and 6. I enjoy giving them toys; unfortunately, they don’t seem to appreciate them. Thank-yous occur if they are repeatedly prompted by their parents. Yet the children expect something from me when I visit. Am I just dealing with a spoiled family?

LGBT Elders Face Special Retirement Concerns

Question: I have neighbors who are in their 60s and gay.  They talk about retirement and some of the problems they foresee.  I am just curious – are their issues different from heterosexual couples?